My sister has been having some issues with a friend. This friend has been in a relationship for the last few months and has been lying a lot about the amount of time she spends with her boyfriend. It wouldn't surprise me that Friend believes she is 'protecting' my sister when she claims to be going to sleep when, in fact, she is going over to Boyfriend's house.
Now, maybe it's just me and my sister and the way we were raised, but we can't stand liars. It's fine if Friend spends a lot of time with Boyfriend--my sister can totally understand that--but just tell her the truth.
Because the problem with deliberately deceiving people isn't the lie itself. It's not even the damage it does to the friendship (or "community", if you will), even though that's a big part. No, the damage is that I can no longer trust the liar. I must now constantly question whether or not I am hearing the truth from them. My sister's Friend may actually be going to sleep when she says that she is, but because of her history, my sister can't know for sure.
So I say "whatever" to those that deliberately deceive. It's not morally wrong, I don't think. But it is a bitchmove. A major bitchmove. And I know I'm not a big fish, I know that no one really cares about or needs my affirmation, but I now think less of all those involved. Like I said: whatever.
One good thing that has come out of all this, though, is that it has greatly increased my respect for certain members of the community, namely Flanders and Rusty. Fight the Good Fight.